My Bytchen Blog
I am a mother of 3 almost adult children & in a committed relationship I have fibromyalgia & a benign brain tumor. I am on a personal journey to discover who I am since I have recently become disabled. I originally started my blog as a place for me to come to vent. It can be traumatizing to lose your independence. As time has gone on it is evolving with me. It will feature my original photographs on a daily basis as well as observations as I continue on this journey called life.
Thursday, April 14, 2016
Imagine if this was you......
Wednesday, April 13, 2016
Ok So I lied.....
Monday, August 3, 2015
Once in a Blue Moon
Bare with me here a few moments. I know the article posted below is a long one but there is a very good reason for me sharing it!
Via Kate Roseon Jul 26, 2015
“Once in a blue moon someone comes along that you’ll never forget.” ~ Unknown
On Friday, July 31st we will have a Full Blue Moon in the sign of Aquarius.
A blue moon is the term for the second full moon in the same month. The first full moon of the month was in Capricorn on July 1st, and now we are saying good-bye to this month of change with a special blue moon.
These full moons have been the bookends to the important lessons learned over the past month.
One of the most special aspects of this moon is that we won’t have another blue moon month until 2018. For many of us, we will be receiving our last bits of a long awaited wake-up call that actually began back in 2012, far before most of us were aware of the changes that were developing.
The energies of this moon are only being magnified by Venus turning retrograde on the 25th, which is just one of seven planets slowing and turning retrograde the week prior to this lunar event.
This cosmic event is unprecedented—it’s truly a month of transitions.
The skies have collided to physically slow all of us down. It seems that it is so easy for most of us to get caught up in our daily lives that we often feel we can push aside issues or decisions because it seems like there will always be more time—more chances.
This moon we are being asked to stop, look around and to see the bigger picture.
We are being asked to notice where in our lives we have been neglecting the truth, or what situations we have been putting off. It’s not easy to deal with life head on—but this moon isn’t only encouraging it, it is making it a requirement.
There is so much happening around this moon in terms of once-in-a-lifetime type chances. It’s as if we are all on the edge of something so big and we have to make the decision to take the path we’ve always taken—or to jump into the territory of new possibilities.
Because of Venus, the planet of love, going retrograde a week prior to this moon, there will be a heavy connection to romantic relationships. This isn’t about just any sort of love though—it’s about the kind of love that comes around only once in a blue moon.
The full moon will be shining a decadent light of truth deep within our hearts.
This will give us the opportunity to get a good grasp on what is in our heart of hearts—if we don’t have our soulmate or twin flame as our lover, then there is a good chance we are aware of who they are, or may start to recognize them around this time.
Sometimes the most wonderful aspects of our lives can be the most terrifying—and that is okay, no one ever said greatness and easiness were one and the same. The thing we all have to remember, though, is that if it doesn’t scare us even a little bit, then it lacks the ability to be that once in a lifetime opportunity to change our lives for the better.
Nothing amazing ever comes from us staying in our comfort zones.
This is about opening our eyes to what is right in front of us—and knowing that some chances don’t come around every day.
Sometimes situations come down to now or never—this blue moon is showing us exactly what we are afraid of losing the most, and it’s challenging us to make the big moves necessary now.
While it is true that those people that are meant for us, that they won’t ever leave us—sometimes humans make the wrong decisions. We make choices based on fear, or try to do what we think is right instead of listening to our hearts.
It seems that so many of us the past few years have been making as many wrong decisions as possible, and while it has seemed difficult, and even painful at times—know that it was necessary, and all part of the divine plan.
Sometimes we really do need to experience everything that is wrong to know what is right.
As amazing as this moon will be, and necessary—it’s going to be one that challenges us on every single level. In the build up to this lunar event we may have been feeling restless, or have had an excess of nervous energy. Our pulses may have been racing, and it may have been harder for us to relax or fall asleep at night.
Our souls can sense that we are on the verge of something big—but it’s up to us to initiate change.We are on the threshold of having massive pieces of the puzzle collide. There may be big changes or upsets in the status quo during the next several weeks. We may find ourselves acting in ways that only a few weeks ago we never thought possible, but Aquarius is lighting a fire inside of our hearts and daring us to break the boundaries that have held us back for far too long.
We can only deny ourselves of what we want the most for so long.
While we may feel anxious at all of the possible changes being presented to ourselves—know that the universe won’t bring us anything we aren’t ready for.
The truth of it is there is no such thing as the perfect time—so now is as good a time as any.
Everything that we have been going through the past year has been leading up to this moon. It’s the time of infinite possibilities, of desires bubbling over and manifesting themselves in our lives in ways we never thought possible.
No matter what has come in or out of our lives in the past few years, once in a while we are given the chance to have everything we’ve always wanted—we just have to make the choice now to not let it go.
Because certain chances only come around once in a blue moon.
I shared this article with Greg on July 27, 2015. It was our 8 year anniversary since our first date. I shared it for several reasons : 1. I thought it was extremely interesting and cool. 2. We are in the midst of some very big changes and he tends to shy away from changes. My hope was to encourage him that we are on the right path with our plans for our home & lift his spirits about annupcoming change in employment that has now become a necessity not just something we want.
Unbeknownst to me, he had plans of his own. We were going to go out to dinner but neither one of us felt very well for a couple of nights. As it turned out, we went on the night of the blue moon. Seeing as it was our anniversary, I had bought a new dress at a great price($10) that is a little sexier than I've worn in a while. I put on a little makeup and some jewelry. During dinner my ring began to hurt me as my hands have been swelling lately. I gave him my ring to hold till we got home. Upon arriving home, we walked in as usual and I went to let the dogs out when I realized that the alarm hadn't been shut off and was still beeping. He had put in the wrong code and when he tried to fix it, he put the wrong one in again. Well I have to tell you that the noise that system emits is ear drum shattering. I took the dogs out while he tried to sort it out. As it turns out, he had changed not only the alarm code but the pw so when he spoke to the alarm company they couldn't do anything other than dispatch the police. We sat on the stoop waiting for them laughing so hard tears rolled down our faces. We joked about the response time and how if we really needed help we would be dead before they arrived as it took almost 25 minutes for their arrival(turns out they were short handed that night and the responding officer was across town). After he left, we headed inside and as I walked away Greg handed me my ring "before he forgets". It took a moment for me to realize that the ring he gave me was not the ring I gave him. The first thing I noticed was the weight. Then I realized that it was THE ring! The one I picked out of a magazine over 10 years ago. I literally said to him "This isn't the ring Ingave you". He told me later he purposely didn't say anything and he will always cherish watching the realization was over my face. He hugged me and said"Will you marry me?"
Well........
Once in a blue moon, someone comes along who means the world to you & if you are very blessed, you mean the world to them! We are so very blessed!
Thursday, May 14, 2015
This Day In History. AKA Why I've been quiet this last year
Saturday, January 24, 2015
Miss me? Yea I did too!
Hey faithful readers,
I know it's been a very long time since my last post. I am just writing today to let you know that I will be back shortly & I promise all will be explained....then it will be up to you to forgive or hold a grudge. C u soon!
Keep it Kind ,
Cat
Monday, May 26, 2014
Monday, May 12, 2014
Fibromyalgia Awareness Day! What the heck is that???
For those of you that don't know what it is & are interested in learning a little about it...Here I go to the best of my ability
Fibromyalgia is a musculoskeletal disease that affects the nervous system. The best way I have found to describe it is that basically your entire nervous system goes into overdrive and becomes hypersensitive. So much so that even the touch of fabric upon the skin can cause great pain. It is not fully understood nor is there a cure at this time. It can present differently in each individual person but most people that have fibro have had some sort of physical trauma in the past, be it a car accident, chemotherapy or abuse to name a few.
There are numerous symptoms that are associated with fibromyalgia. . Its characteristics include widespread muscle and joint pain and fatigue, as well as other symptoms. Fibromyalgia can lead to depression and social isolation.Some patients with fibromyalgia have pain and achiness around the joints in the neck, shoulder, back, and hips. This makes it difficult for them to sleep or exercise. Other fibromyalgia symptoms include:
Abdominal pain
Chronic headaches
Dryness in mouth, nose, and eyes
Hypersensitivity to cold and/or heat
Inability to concentrate (called "fibro fog")
Incontinence
Irritable bowel syndrome
Numbness or tingling in the fingers and feet
Stiffness
The disease can range from mild to severe and everything in between. Some people are fine most of the time unless they are having a flare while others(like me) find that the symptoms never go away but sometimes are a little less than others.
Treatment for the disease can include one or any combination of all of the following: Medication, lifestyle changes, medical marijuana, gentle exercise, alternative therapies, massage therapy and/or physical therapy.
Results vary by patient just as the disease varies by each patient.
People don't always know what to say or what they can do if they know someone and/or are friends with someone who has fibromyalgia. The best advice I can give is to treat them as you would want to be treated(as you should always anyway throughout life). Don't judge. Be kind. Be a true friend. Be open to the information that is readily available to learn more about the disease. Don't forget that they are still the same person you always knew....they just may not be able to do the things they did before. Be patient with them, in most cases, their entire lives have changed and their bodies have betrayed them. And last but not least, ask them what they need or want.
Thank you for taking the time to learn a little more about a not fully understood disease. Please share this ...you never know who you may be helping. A little awareness can go a long way! :)